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Relationship Lessons From People In The Bible – ADAM

It was love at first sight when I laid eyes on Eve. Indeed, God outdid Himself when He made her. She was like nothing I had ever seen before. I was so awe-struck by her appearance that the first words out of my mouth were ‘wow…man’. So, I dropped the center w and called her woman as a tribute, for indeed she succeeded in wooing me off my feet at first sight. I suppose you could say it was love at first sight. Those early days of our relationship were wonderful!

But the wonder went by the wayside the day we both decided to eat the fruit God told us not to eat. I will never forget that day. It was the day I abdicated responsibility for eating the fruit and instead threw Eve under the bus – blaming her for giving me the fruit. In that moment, I completely neglected the fact that I had my own free will and chose to eat the fruit.

Why did I eat that fruit you ask? I can’t point to just one reason but a myriad. First, the fruit looked really good and appetizing. Second, I knew she desired the fruit too. So, I thought why not! I convinced myself that not only was I going to please my wife, it would also help move us towards our goal of becoming one. I reasoned to myself that God wouldn’t mind us disobeying his word since it would help us fulfill his desire of oneness for Eve and me.

What is that popular saying people have today? Ahh yes…“Happy wife, Happy life”. It didn’t quite work that way for me. When I ate the fruit, Eve was happy in that instant, but it did not take us long to realize we had opened up Pandora’s box. Our happiness quickly disappeared and our lives became miserable.

The immediate period of adjusting to our new normal was especially rough. After experiencing marital heaven for so long, our new normal seemed like marital hell. We pointed fingers at each other and had lots of arguments. Instead of getting us closer to each other, eating the fruit ended up separating us.

I thank God that Eve and I were both committed to each other though. As time passed, we both realized that we had to let go of the past in order to move forward. Neither of us could go back in time and fix our mistakes. We just had to make the best of the situation at hand and learn from our past mistakes.

Still, it is clear that we would not be in our predicament if only we had listened to God in the first place. From that moment on, we stopped debating whether to believe God or not. We realized He is infinitely wiser than we would ever be and so submitted to His lordship.

Relationship Lessons

  1. Do not sacrifice permanent joy for temporary gratification
  2. God knows what is best for your relationship – trust the boundaries He sets for you
  3. You have to let go of the past in order to move forward
  4. Your commitment to your partner will determine whether your relationship survives
  5. Your commitment to God will determine whether your relationship thrives

Meditation

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding
– Proverbs 3:5
Note: The biblical story referenced can be found in Genesis 3:1-13  

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4 Ways to Improve the Trajectory of Your Life

The bible talks about a guy called Peter who went from living a mundane and predictable life to being transformed into a guy that changed the course of history. His life went from being virtually meaningless to vitally important all within the course of three years.

If you do not like where you are in life and desire for a change in trajectory, then you need to know the four things that changed the course of Peter’s life.

Take the Opportunities That Life Gives You

As Jesus was walking beside the Sea of Galilee, he saw two brothers, Simon called Peter and his brother Andrew. They were casting a net into the lake, for they were fishermen. 19 “Come, follow me,” Jesus said, “and I will send you out to fish for people.” 20 At once they left their nets and followed him – Matthew 4:18-20

If Peter had not heeded Jesus’ words, he would have stayed a local fisherman. He wouldn’t have become one of the twelve disciples and he wouldn’t have become the father of the early church. Not that there is anything wrong with being a fisherman, but the point is he was called to do more, be more, and achieve more. When the call came, he did not hesitate! He immediately left what he was doing and jumped at the opportunity.

All that is required for you to change the course of your life is one wise decision in one fateful moment

It is not often that life presents trajectory changing opportunities. In fact, you may only get one opportunity in your life time. When that moment comes, do not let it walk away thinking you will get another chance, for you may not! And do not let your fear interfere! Seize the moment! Do not be afraid to drop the good thing that you have today so that you may take hold of a better thing tomorrow.

Changing the trajectory of your life will require you to get out of your comfort zone

Focus on People, Not on Things

The first time Jesus met Peter, he told him how he could change the trajectory of his life. Jesus told him that he would teach him to fish for people. Though Peter knew how to catch fish, he did not know how to catch people.

In school, we are taught how to catch things but we are not necessarily taught how to catch people. If you want to change the trajectory of your life, you will have to learn to catch people’s attention. You will have to learn to influence them and get them to notice you.

The best way to catch people’s attention is to help them solve a problem. The more problems you can solve, the more attention you will receive from people. Now, there are lots of problems out there just waiting to be solved – medical, financial, mental, relational etc. You don’t have to try to solve them all. Just choose one problem and do the best you can to solve that problem on a large scale.

This is in essence what Jesus was telling Peter: I will show you how to solve people’s problems and in doing that, men will be drawn to you.

Find a Good Mentor to Guide You

Jesus was Peter’s mentor. Peter stayed with him for three years. In those three years, he taught him what he knew (John 15:15). Then after he departed from Peter, he introduced him to another mentor that would lead him and guide him (Holy Spirit).

A good mentor is so secure in himself that he will teach you all that he knows and is not afraid to introduce you to another great mentor

An interesting thing about the other mentor Jesus introduced Peter to is that this particular mentor would never leave Peter. That is to say this: No matter how clever you are; no matter how accomplished you are; you can never outgrow needing a mentor in your life.

If you do not have a mentor, it is time for you to get one. Grow from their expertise; learn from their experience; gain from their influence.

Asking or admitting you need help is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of wisdom

Resist the Urge to Go Back When Times Get Hard

“I’m going out to fish,” Simon Peter told them, and they said, “We’ll go with you.” So, they went out and got into the boat, but that night they caught nothing – John 21:3

In this period of Peter’s life, he was crest-fallen that he no longer had Jesus as a mentor. He felt that the investment he had made over the last three years had led to nothing. So, he decided to go back to fishing – the first thing he was doing before Jesus called him to greatness. And he was not the only one. Others felt the same way he did and they followed suit. What happened? They caught nothing!

There will be times when you feel that you have simply wasted your time. There will be times when you ask yourself if you made the right decision. In these times, you may want to go back to the safe and secure world that you left behind. If you decide to go this route, know that it will leave you empty.

To make sure you do not go back, make sure you get rid of any plan B. This is exactly what Cortez did when he landed in the Americas. He burned the ships they took from Europe! He got rid of plan B.

By the way, Jesus ended up showing up again to help Peter and the others course-correct. And Peter ended up fulfilling the call he had on his life. Make sure you keep people in your life who will pull you up when you are down in the dumps.

If you do not quit, you will fulfil the great plan and purpose for your life

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How to Stand Out from The Crowd, Get Noticed, and Get Doors to Open

Do you have a desire to stand out from the crowd, get noticed, and get doors to open for you? If so, the first thing you need to do is make sure your work is meaningful to you.  When your work has meaning to you, you will tend to dedicate more time, energy, and resources to it. It will seem less like work and more like play. Meaningful work gives us lots of energy, passion, determination, and drive. It is the antidote to the lethargy, listlessness, and procrastination that comes with doing something you find meaningless and insignificant to you.

Meaningful work produces the consistent hard work that is required for you to stand out, get noticed, and get doors to open for you. 

If you cannot attach a significant meaning to what you are doing day in day out, then maybe you are not doing what you have been born to do, but doing what you feel you must do.

Nurture Your Gifts & Talent

A mans gift opens doors for him, and brings him before great men – Proverbs 18:16

Our talent is something we were born to do; our training is something we were taught to do. While whatever we are taught to do can help us achieve success, only by doing what we were born to do will we achieve fulfillment along with success. Note: Achievement – Fulfillment = Emptiness!

Another reason to choose talent over training is this: A nurtured and practiced talent will always outshine a nurtured and practiced training.

Nurturing your talent takes you beyond the ordinary and propels you into the realm of the extraordinary. Therefore, do not neglect your talent for the sake of nurturing your training. Your gift is a great door opener to bring you before the great men in this world. Stir it up!

Deepen Your Relationship with God

Then Jesus returned in the power of the Spirit to Galilee, and news of Him went out through all the surrounding region – Luke 4:14

After Jesus was empowered by the Spirit, He was able to do some incredibly amazing things. He was able to achieve feats that had not been done before. As a result, news of him spread quickly and so did his fame.

Therefore, a way to stand out, get noticed, and get doors to open for you is to do something that has never been done or has seldom been done before. Though this may not be possible in your own power, there is nothing you cannot do if you rely on the ability of God. This is exactly what Noah did when God asked him to build a boat. Having never built a boat before, he had to rely on divine instruction. Therefore, in all your hard work and striving to stand out, get noticed, and to get doors to open, do not forget to work hard on your relationship with God!

Achieving the impossible is possible when we listen and obey Him for whom nothing is impossible.

Nourish Your Relationship with Others

But Peter stood at the door outside. Then the other disciple, who was known to the high priest, went out and spoke to her who kept the door, and brought Peter in – John 18:16

Sometimes, the only way you can get through a door is by knowing the right person. Therefore, do not be afraid to expand your network and develop relationships. It is interesting, that the other disciple of Jesus cultivated a relationship with the high priest, a man who disliked Jesus. This disciple seemed to be able to get along fine with just everyone and so had an expansive network.

If you want to stand out from the crowd, get noticed, and get doors to open, then you must be a likeable person. When you are liked, you’ll find that people will afford you liberties, luxuries, and passes that they not extend to other people. In other words, you get advantages that other people do not get, and doors that may have otherwise remained closed suddenly swing open.

Your luck increases as more people like you. 

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