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Wisdom For Millions | Episode 3 | Belief Stories of Rich, JT, and Frank

Since you are reading this blog, I believe you have a vision of building wealth and living a rich life. For me, a rich life goes beyond wealth. It involves prospering in my relationships, impact, charity, and health. No matter how you define wealth and a rich life, if you are going to achieve it, then you must get rid of these three limiting beliefs. Limiting Belief One: I can’t achieve wealth because of where or to whom I was born. Limiting Belief Two: I am not capable of achieving wealth. Limiting Belief Three: Wealth is evil.  

While I help eliminate these limiting beliefs throughout the book: How to build wealth and live a rich life, I want to share three stories that will help debunk these limiting beliefs now. 

Chris Gardner

Ever heard of Chris Gardner? He was one of four children raised by a single mother who worked multiple jobs to make ends meet. Chris was born into a poor environment. Not only were they financially poor, but the social environment was equally broken. His biological dad was not around, and his stepdad was abusive and an alcoholic. He hardly spent time with his mom as she was working all the time. Moreover, she was twice sent to prison for different offenses. Hence, he spent a lot of his childhood bouncing between relatives and foster care. This kind of environment and upbringing took a toll on Chris. He himself went to prison and was homeless. If there is anyone that should have held onto Limiting Belief One, it was Chris Gardner. 

Yet today, Chris is a multi-millionaire who founded a brokerage firm called Gardner Rich, a firm he started as a one-man operation in his apartment and later sold for millions. He is involved in numerous philanthropic activities, including helping to fund low income housing in San Francisco, the city where he was once homeless.  

How did he turn things around? It started when he chose to speak to a man driving a red sports car, asking him how he got to own one. When he learned that the man made $80,000 a month as a stockbroker, Chris decided he was going to do the same. He saw a chance and he decided to take it and never looked back. Rich Gardner is the man portrayed by Will Smith in the movie, Pursuit of Happiness

It is not about the hand you have been dealt; it is about the chances you are willing to take. Life is filled with opportunities. Look for the windows of opportunities and take it when you find one. Wealth always leaves a trail behind. If you know what the trail looks like and follow it, wealth is certain 

JT Foxx

Ever heard of JT Foxx? As of the writing of this book, he is considered one of the best sales closer from stage. While most speakers are overjoyed to move 10% of their audience to action, it is purported that JT Foxx is able to close well over 30%. He is worth hundreds of millions and working on reaching a billion. 

What is so astonishing about JT Foxx being the best closer on stage is that he was once a stutterer into his teenage years. If anyone could have held onto Limiting Belief Two, it is JT Foxx. When he left Canada, he started off with very little money and quickly ended up in debt. But in the course of a few short years, he went from negative net worth to multi-millionaire.  

If you ask JT Foxx how he did it, I have no doubt that coaching or mentorship would come from his lips. He chose to learn from those who were where he wanted to be. He has an insatiable desire to improve himself. If you want to know more, I suggest you pick up his book, Millionaire Underdog. 

Though you may not be capable today, it does not mean you won’t be capable tomorrow 

JT started to turn things around in Chicago, the same city where Michael Jordan made his name as arguably the greatest basketball player in history. The interesting thing is that Michael was one of five children. And Michael’s dad, an avid sports fan, encouraged his children to play sports. So why did Michael become such a great basketball player? You can say that he was simply born with his capabilities, but if you say so, then you would have to explain why his other siblings did not become world beaters in sports since they came from the same gene pool. 

Here is what I have found that I want you to know and imbibe: What you develop and practice is what gets engrained in your DNA! Therefore, it is not a question of nature versus nurture. The reality is that whatever you nurture becomes your nature...what are you nurturing?

So, no! The ‘gods’ were not favorable to anyone. No one is born with an unfair advantage. If you do the work, you will get the results. If you don’t do the work, you don’t get the results. And guess what, no matter who you are, it has been documented that it takes 10,000 hours of practice and development to become insanely great or become an outlier in what you choose to do. Read Malcolm Gladwell’s book, Outliers, to find out more.   

You should not ask if you are capable. You should ask how you can become capable 

Frank McKinney

What about Frank McKinney, the multi-millionaire real estate developer? He was kicked out of many schools and graduated high school with a 1.8 GPA. After moving to Miami, he started to change his beliefs about wealth. He started by noticing that people were playing golf and tennis at all times of the day while he was stuck shoveling sand into the bunkers (sand traps) of the golf course.  

This baffled Frank. No one who frequented the club seemed to have a day job, and he wondered what they did to make money. After learning that some of the people invested in Real Estate, he decided to do the same. Though he had no experience, he took the leap and invested money in a property that turned out to be a crack house. Long story short, he turned his first $50 investment into millions as he developed his capabilities, practiced his craft, and decided not to follow the crowd. Today, Frank McKinney uses his wealth to help build self-sustained villages in Haiti – providing shelter, clean water, access, and opportunity to thousands. 

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Wisdom for Millions – To Believe or Not to Believe – Episode 2 Video

You wouldn’t believe that nothing is possible, yet you doubt it when I tell you that anything is possible! In life, it is impossible to achieve anything beyond what we believe, and it is impossible to sustain achievement beyond who we become.  

Take a moment and think about these statements for a while. As we begin this journey to wealth, the two fundamental questions you need to ask yourself are: What do I believe? Who am I becoming? After answering these two questions, you need to consider this third question: Is what I believe and the person I am becoming pushing me forward in life or holding me back? 

These questions are not mutually exclusive but are complimentary. What you believe will impact who you choose to become. And who you are becoming will impact the beliefs you choose to hold onto and the ones you choose to push to the side.  

So, what do you believe? Do you believe you have to come from the high echelons of society to be wealthy or do you believe that it does not matter? Do you think you can do anything you put your mind to do or do you think there are somethings that are just beyond you? Do you believe you can live beyond the limitations of your upbringing or are you the one that throws your hands up in the air and just gives up? Do you believe some just get lucky, others are just unlucky, and there is nothing anyone can do about it? Be honest with yourself about what you believe and then ask yourself if it is helpful or holding you back from wealth. 

To Believe or Not to Believe – The Choice is Yours

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Unequally Yoked – So you think you are marrying a believer!

“For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God” – Romans 8:14

Paul makes it clear that it is not enough to have the spirit of God, but that we have to be led by the Spirit. He further implores us not only to live in the spirit but to walk in the Spirit (see Galatians 5:25) for it is those of us that walk in the Spirit that do not fulfill the desires of the flesh and are able to produce the fruit of the Spirit.

To be led, we have to hear from our leader (God). Now, it is impossible to be led without studying and meditating on the Word of God, for the bible tells us that hearing comes by the Word. Actually, the whole verse tells us that faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word. Therefore, it is hearing that grants us faith (trust and belief) to obey (walk or be led) by the Spirit. Since it is simply not possible to be Holy Spirit led without having faith in God (Jesus Christ), we ought not to be mocked in the these two things:

  • It is only those who have faith in Jesus Christ that can receive and be led by the Holy Spirit (God)
  • It is our faith walk that makes us a child of God – it is what makes us a believer

The second bullet point elevates and challenges our thinking on what Paul means when he tells us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. He is telling us not to be married to someone who is not walking in faith. He puts it this way:

“And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever” – 2 Corinthians 6:15

When I first read this, I thought Paul was unnecessarily harsh or perhaps going off the deep-end a little. I thought to myself: Paul, you are comparing an unbeliever to Belial! Seriously!  Then it dawned on me that the only way to identify a true believer is a person’s faith walk. I stumbled upon this realization as I began to unravel what Belial (evil spirit/devil/demon) is able to do. Since no one would call Belial a believer, there must be something that separates believers from him. That something is faith! To bolster this assertion, here are some interesting facts about Belial.

Belial believes that Jesus is Lord

“You believe that there is one God. You do well. Even the demons believe – and tremble!” – James 2:19

The devil and demons have no problem believing that Jesus is Lord (see Matthew 8:29) for they know it fully well. After all, they were cast away or separated from God because of rebellion. Satan was disobedient (rebelled) because he did not love God. How do we know he did not love God? We know because the scriptures tell us that those who love God keep and obey His commandments (see John 14:21). Since genuine faith works through love (see Galatians 5:6), we know the Satan and the rest of his rebellious crew (demons) also did not have faith! If demons had faith, they would not tremble (fear) at the name of Jesus, for there is no fear in love (1 John 4:18). But they do not have faith or love, so they operate in fear.

Lightbulb MomentLight-bulb moment: A believer is not just someone who believes that Jesus is Lord but walks in faith and produces faith-based work. Since genuine faith grows out of love, the walk (life) and work (actions) of a true believer is steeped in love.

Belial knows the scriptures

“If you are the Son of God,” he said, “throw yourself down. For it is written: “‘He will command his angels concerning you, and they will lift you up in their hands, so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.’”” – Matthew 4:6

This is the devil quoting scripture to Jesus.What impudence! But it does show that the devil knows scripture and is able to quote it – probably better than we can and at will. Hence, the knowledge of scripture itself is not the mark of a believer. If it were, then we would be unable to distinguish a believer from the devil! Without the Holy Spirit to guide us and to lead us aright, we only apply the scripture erroneously and for our selfish gain –just like Satan tried with Jesus.

Lightbulb MomentLight-bulb moment: A person who is filled with the knowledge of the Word of God is nothing but an historian if that knowledge does not produce faith (which is only possible through the Holy Spirit).  The scripture to a person without faith is simply a history book. Hence the ability to quote and recall scripture does not prove a believer.

Belial can exhibit “spiritual” gifts

Now it happened, as we went to prayer, that a certain slave girl possessed with a spirit of divination met us, who brought her masters much profit by fortune-telling. This girl followed Paul and us, and cried out, saying, “These men are the servants of the Most High God, who proclaim to us the way of salvation.” And this she did for many days. But Paul, greatly annoyed, turned and said to the spirit, “I command you in the name of Jesus Christ to come out of her.” And he came out that very hour” – Acts 16:16 – 18

The slave girl had the gift to tell the future – a gift of prophesy so to speak! Yet it turns out that she was possessed with an evil spirit. It is also very interesting that although demon-possessed, she was helping to spread the gospel! It just goes to show that not everyone who is proclaiming the gospel is of God. This exemplifies why the bible warns us about false prophets and warns us in the last days not to be fooled by those that perform mighty works.

Lightbulb MomentLight-bulb moment: The ability to exhibit “spiritual” gifts does not prove the believer as the gift may be from ungodly spirits working in that individual.

Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name? And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’” – Matthew 7:22 – 23

Belial obeys God – but in fear

“And He said to them, “Go.” And when they had come out, they went into the herd of swine…” – Matthew 8:32

The demons obey the voice of God when He speaks to them. Hallelujah! The difference between the obedience of a believer and that of demons is this: The obedience of evil spirits does not come out of love (and hence faith) but instead comes out of fear. See, faith and fear are the polar opposites of each other, but both require that we believe something that is yet to be. Both faith and fear can produce obedience – fear produce obedience based on consequences; faith produces obedience based on love.

Lightbulb MomentLight-bulb moment: Faith released outside of the realm of love is fear in disguise.

Spot a Believer

So, if believing that Jesus is Lord, reading and knowing the scripture, preaching the Word, exhibiting spiritual gifts, and Pharisaical obedience to the law are not full proof ways to spot a believer, then how can we spot believers? How can we tell if someone is walking in faith?

The answer is simply this: By their fruits you shall know them (see Mathew 7:20). A person who walks in faith also walks in the Spirit for it is the Spirit of God that grows our faith as we spend time in His Word. Anyone who truly walks in the Spirit produces the spiritual fruit of love, peace, joy, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.

No one can fake these fruits. An impatient person cannot simply become patient at will. A selfish person will not be joyful because selfishness produces dissatisfaction or perennial unhappiness. A person who cannot control their tongue will not all of a sudden be able to master their tongue. These fruits cannot be faked because what we produce comes from who we are and what is in our hearts rather than what we do (obey, preach the Word…).

A person who is truly in Christ produces the fruit of the Spirit along with the works (read the bible, preach the Word…)

Lightbulb MomentLight-bulb moment: A true believer walks in faith and therefore produces spiritual fruit. If we do not see spiritual fruits, then we see a counterfeit believer. Whatever else they do should not impress us much!

Food for thought: We cannot believe in God and not produce love for He is love.

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Favor Gone Berserk – Recieving grace in vain

What are you doing with God’s favor? (listen here)

God’s grace is multifaceted! His grace saves us from eternal separation (through the redemptive sacrifice of Jesus Christ), covers us in a myriad of situations and covers our sins when we confess, and empowers us (through the Holy Spirit) to live righteously and to attain all the covenant blessings or promises (favor, healing, prosperity, wisdom, might, and much more) that has been won for us.

Since we receive grace through faith (see Ephesians 2:8), as we grow our faith (belief and trust) in the Lord through the study of His Word (see Romans 10:17), we ensure we experience more grace (power, gifting) in our lives. Thus, a life of faith is an empowered life that leads to the manifestation of the fullness of His covenant blessings in our life.

Yet, many of us receive the grace of God in vain when we fail to realize that God lavishes His grace on us not just to proper us but for us to be His hands and feet and to fulfill the requirements of love through His gifts – to walk in His purpose for us, to reveal Christ to others, and to be a blessing to others. Paul puts it this way:

But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace toward me was not in vain; but I labored more abundantly than they all, yet not I, but the grace of God which was with me – 1 Corinthians 5:10

Lightbulb MomentLight-bulb moment: We receive grace in vain when we stop laboring to fulfill the requirements of love by walk in His purpose for us, revealing Christ to others, and being a blessing to others. When we think it is just for us and we become lazy

Favor Gone Berserk

Favor goes berserk when we receive favor in vain. I started thinking of how favor goes berserk when I was asked this question: What would you rather have – favor or blessing? I found the question puzzling, not because it is difficult to answer, but because it makes a fundamentally flawed assumption. The question assumes that favor and blessing are mutually exclusive.

The will of God is to pour out his blessing on us and doth on us as a loving Father. He longs to bless us so that we can be a blessing to others – not to hog all our blessings in selfishness. By blessing others, we show God’s heart and walk in obedience. We open the door to God’s blessing when we obediently follow the path the He has for us. Favor is something that God grants us as we continue on the path of obedience. It is God’s favor that propels and catapults us towards the blessings that He has in store for us. So the relationship between favor and blessing is simply this:

Lightbulb MomentLight-bulb moment: Favors are simply doors that God opens to accomplish His purpose through us

The mindset that favor and blessing are exclusive keeps us from reaching our destiny! People who chase after favor rather than blessings can be compared to those that base their performance on effort rather than results. They congratulate themselves on effort without ever achieving much. Hence, favor minded people often find themselves stuck in the same situation in life.

Lightbulb MomentLight-bulb moment: Favor is the means to an end, and not the end in itself.

The story of Mark lays out the peril of being solely favor minded

Mark Receives Grace in Vain (listen here)

Mark is a favor-monger! He loves favor. Mark does not have much but he does very well on favor. He is favored everywhere he goes – he gets free parking in places others need to pay; he gets the closest parking at sporting events, and a friend usually picks up his tab at dinner. Mark enjoys so much favor that he has come to expect it. It has come to the point where he can just about budget favor into his monthly financial plan.  For this, He is very thankful to God and prays to God for even more favor. From the outside looking in, it would be nice to be Mark right? Wrong!

Here are some things that being solely favor minded has done to Mark

  • He Cannot Bless Others: Mark is never able to pick up the tab for any of his friends. He is never able to help or bless anyone as he is the one that is always in need of a blessing. He needs others to continue favoring him and so is unable to be God’s hands and feet.
  • He has Become Lazy: By being solely favor minded he has imbibed a poverty mentality where he is satisfied with barely scraping by. He has the ability to achieve more, but laziness has crept into him. He has become the servant that the master admonished in the parable of the talents for being lazy (see Matthew 14:26). Mark has buried his potential under the seductive soil of favor!
  • He is Dissatisfied: Mark is never fully satisfied with any particular blessing his friends bestow upon him as he is always looking for more! His friends have noticed that while he always smiles and thanks them for blessing him, Mark becomes very sad, withdrawn, and even cold when he does not obtain their favor. They secretly wonder if Mark is only friends with them because of what they do for him. They wonder if their friendship with Mark is built on being his cash cow, and they wonder why he does not do more with the talent he possesses. On the other hand, Mark wonders why his friends have not picked up the tab especially when they are able and he is unable! He rationalizes it as his friends being cheap and not really loving him. He judges them for not following the biblical injunction of caring for the “needy” – as he is one who is in need! He conveniently forgets about all the other times they pick up his tab……. Mark has truly become a burden. And since he is never truly satisfied, he is never truly content. As such, he always nags. He has become a person that bible calls quarrelsome and nagging (see Proverbs 21:19).
  • He Cannot Keep a Relationship: Mark cannot maintain relationships because he is always the “taker” in them. He never gives because he rationalizes that he has nothing to give – but a whole lot of condemnation which he considers advice. He sees nothing wrong with always being a taker. In fact, He thanks God for blessing him and for putting people in his life he can take from. They are such a blessing! But in time, his partner realizes that Mark loves favor more than her and leaves him. Mark is stunned! He cannot see his own selfishness. He prays that God sends him another partner – another partner to drain!

Mark has forgotten that the bible says we should give and it shall be given unto us. It does not say to take so that we can get more.

“Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.” – Luke 6:38

Mark’s Heart Condition (listen here)

The story of Mark illuminates what can happen when favor goes berserk – when we make favor the goal and not a means. It may lead to laziness, ingratitude, inability to fulfill our potential and broken relationships. As heirs to the throne, Jesus has unlocked for us covenant blessings; not just covenant favor for our selfish gain. We must not allow the enemy to twist favor in such a way as to keep us from God’s best. If this is happening, we have to examine our hearts. If we truly have a heart for God (a heart of love), then we will have a heart to be a blessing to others. We will have a heart to be givers.

So to answers the originally levied question of whether I would rather have favor or blessing, I say give me bless me so that I can be a blessing to others.

Food for Thought: The path to God’s blessing is paved with favor

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