Men, How Do You Know If You Have Found the Right Woman?

‘A man who finds a wife finds a good thing’. I have heard this verse spoken of in the context of how a man should pursue a woman and how he should treasure and love his wife. As I was reading the scripture a few days ago, I was compelled to make the sentence negative. If you do this, you’d get ‘A man who does not find a wife does not find a good thing’.

Is God telling us that he wants every one of us to be single? Heavens no (although there is nothing wrong with being single)! Is God telling us that we should chase after someone who is married? God forbid…that is wrong! What God is telling us is that He wants us to find a woman who is already married to Him… that is why the scripture says ‘A man who finds a wife’!


She makes God No. 1 in her life

Her first husband is God. Since her first marriage is to God, He is to take first position in her life and you are to be No.2. And so He should be No.1 for He is better at everything! You should not try to compete with God for the first place in her heart because you cannot compete. You are not as loving as God, you are not as strong as God, you are not anywhere close to being as selfless as God…you cannot make her nearly as happy as God can. So you must not try to take a position that rightfully belongs to God!

Remember the phrase ‘Happy wife, happy life’? If you want her to be happy and want to be happy, then you have to encourage her relationship with God. So have you been pushing her closer to her first love or are you trying to take the place of her first love? Only he gives her life purpose and controls her destiny. Do you want to have your way with her or do you want God to have His way in her life?

A man who finds a woman who is married to Jesus finds a good thing

She is faithful to her first Husband

God is wonderful and marvelous! He is the prince of peace and the author of all good things! If she is not faithful to that kind of a husband, then how can you expect her to be faithful to you?

If she is running after other lovers (idols) and committing harlotry while married to God, then do not be surprised when she continues the practice while with you. Moreover, do not be surprised if you are one of the lovers that she has run towards. Note that any woman who is willing to sacrifice her faithfulness to God to please you has made you an idol. Since all idolatry leads to pain, all you will do in the end is cause her pain. Do not make yourself the idol who causes her to compromise God.

What you want is a faithful woman. A faithful woman is a helper. She will help you stand strong in the Lord when you start to stray. Do not despise such a woman!

A man who finds a woman who is faithfully married to Jesus finds a good thing

She is a good thing

Since only God is good (Mark 10:18), being a good thing means that she is a God-thing. A God-thing will reflect the characteristics of God. More often than not, she will produce the fruit of the Spirit and be a virtuous woman. You will sleep easy at night with such a woman; trust is no issue for she is a God-thing. You know that the intent of thoughts of her heart is to do you good.

Imagine a woman who reflects the things of God. That is a woman who is worth cherishing and sacrificing yourself over. See, it is easy to love and sacrifice yourself for a wife. So let her bring you love, joy, peace, and victory by remaining a God-thing.

A man who finds a woman who is faithfully married to Jesus finds love, joy, and peace! 

So men, let us not be afraid of a wife! If you are courting, do not say…oh man she is super-spiritual. Do not say…oh man, she does not want to be alone with me past 9 pm! Let us step to the plate and become husbands ourselves prior to getting married.

She who is found by a husband is found by a good thing.



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19 responses to “Men, How Do You Know If You Have Found the Right Woman?

  1. This is such a great blog Super Champ! So refreshing! 🙂

  2. Winston

    I love this site its discussing relationship issues n i find that the more we can talk abt these issues it will have a positive impact in our lives. Thank u guys so much.

  3. patience Joseph

    tanks 4 enlightenment. may God bless u n increase ur ministry

  4. Also i must add that in addition to all the points mentioned, as a man you know that you have found the right woman in that you have a magnetic pull toward her, you equally feel a sense of fulfillment whenever you are with her.
    Moreover, you come to a point when you will scream like ADAM in the BIBLE “this is the bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh” because you have an inner peace and fulfillment.

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  10. ajuma blessing

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  12. steve

    Super thank you guys for the wisdom I have been given.
    May God bless u all for your labour. 🙂

  13. shirokuriah

    wow what you said is so true
    I look forward to bring such a wife

    especially the part you said she is a God-thing
    it cuts deep
    meaning a wife is from God as she is a God thing

  14. Sean hauck

    Why does God give countless unsaved men a wife?

  15. Sean hauck

    So he will give a good thing to an unsaved male and yet many christian males that desire marriage are single for years. Thes men get married have children buy houses laugh laugh laugh and it seems effortless

  16. mawazole

    wow this is mind-opening

  17. Robert

    Very insightful article. God bless you guys and more room for improvement

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