“It is rough out there for a woman who does not want to compromise her Christian values”, says Stephanie. She is a fantastic women who desires to be married but is not willing to compromise her values. She has settled in her heart not to get married just for the sake of it. Instead she wants to build a loving, committed relationship that lasts a lifetime. She is not the only godly Christian lady who think this. Many have said to me: Just because a guy is a Christian does not mean he is godly. Where are the godly Christian men?
Godly Christian men still exist, though they may be hiding underneath a veil of shyness. If you really desire a godly guy, there are things you can do to compel them to come out of their shell.
Some of these things may put off some men. Don’t worry about that. You are more interested in quality than you are quantity.
If you want that godly Christian guy to approach you, there are two biblical things you must practice. These are the two things that made Eliezer approach Rebekah (read Genesis 24:16-17)
(1) Take Care of Your Appearance: Everything that good makes is good (Genesis 1:4). So how God made you uniquely with your specially designed features is good. Still, you are a steward of everything God has given you. Being a good steward of your body means that you keep healthy and keep your appearance in check. When Eliezer met Rebekah, he saw that she was beautiful in appearance. This was a factor in him approaching her.
The implication is this: It is your external appearance that lures people to you before they get a chance to see how wonderful a person you are. So while it is true that no one should judge a book by its cover, you want to make sure your cover does not completely turn people off. Therefore, if you want that guy to approach you, take heed to your appearance. Wear a charming smile, make sure your body language is open and makes you approachable, dress well, and keep fit.
(2) Know Your Worth: Being beautiful, I am certain many men wanted to get with Rebekah. Yet she did not give herself away to just anyone. We know this for she remained a virgin. She knew she was like fine china – she knew she was valuable and wasn’t going to surrender herself for everyday use. Here is how Jesus put this concept: Do not cast your pearls before pigs. Why did Jesus say this? It is because pigs do not understand the value of pearls and so trample them as if they were common.
God does not regard you as common but calls you His special treasure. Therefore, uphold your values, maintain godly standards, and do not treat yourself as valueless. Do not worry if you have not always treated yourself as valuable. You can’t do anything about yesterday. Today is the day to start. Though you may drive insecure men away, the men who are worth it will value and cherish you.
There is nothing more attractive to a godly Christian man than a fine woman who knows her worth and understands her value.
Next: We will look at how to get that godly Christian guy to choose you