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Seize Today and Rule Tomorrow

I always thought lazy people do not work hard! But then I read this saying from King Solomon (arguably the wisest king that has ever lived): The hand of the diligent will rule, but the lazy man will be put to forced labor – Proverbs 12:24

As I digested it, I could not help but notice the following: It seems that diligent people end up telling people what to do, and lazy people are the one’s that end up doing the work. Moreover, the work that lazy people find themselves doing is not easy but it is laborious (hard).

As I thought about this some more, I came to realize that hard work and laziness are not mutually exclusive. I came to realize that the diligent man is the one who commits to do what he needs to do at the right time to be successful. Conversely, the lazy man is one who does not do what he needs to do at the right time but procrastinates. As a result, the lazy man ends up working harder than what he ever bargained for, and the one who was committed ends up living a life of royalty.

Lazy people end up working harder than the diligent over time

Therefore, we see that timing is important. This is how my mom put it me when I was growing up: If you work hard now, you won’t have to work as hard tomorrow. But if you don’t work hard now, you will have to work much harder than you’d like tomorrow.

If you want to rule in life, you have to seize today. Take an inventory of how you spend your time, energy, and resources. Do you spend your time daydreaming or do you spend it thinking of your dreams? Do you spend your energy people pleasing or do you spend your energy pursuing purpose? Do you spend your resources on frivolous pursuits or do you spend your money on assets that will dividend for your future? Only you know the honest answers to these questions.

Do the right things at the right time, and you will end up having more time to do what you feel is right

Now, consider that this concept is not simply true for finances, but true for every area of our lives. Any area in which you are lazy atrophies and dies, but the area in which you are diligent grows and thrives. Think about relationships. If you don’t work on your relationship today, you will have to work so much harder to save it tomorrow, or work so much harder for much longer at your job just to make the alimony payments. Think about health. If you don’t work on being healthy today, your health will work on your wallet and become a burden to other people tomorrow.

Therefore, sow the seed of diligence today. Do not slack off in any area of life. Seize today and be the very best you can be. Then you will find that life rewards you instead of ripping you off.

Exercise: Think of an area of your life where you know you have slacked off. What are the joys waiting for you tomorrow if you committed yourself to strengthening that area today? Write down what you will do different starting right now. Then like Nike, Just Do It!

If you don’t rule your life today, life will rule you tomorrow

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Get A Grip On Your Emotions

Think of your emotions as people that life sends you. When these emotions get to you, they knock on the door of your house (heart and mind) and offer you feelings. If you open the door to the emotion that life sends you, it will try its best to convince your to take the feelings it holds in its hand.

Feelings are the gifts that emotions offer you.

If you have ever asked yourself ‘Why am I feeling this way?’, the reason is because you opened the door to the emotion that life sent you. If you do not want to feel a certain way, then you have two options: (A) Don’t open the door to the emotions life sends you (B) Get life to send you a different emotion.

Most people work on option A – not opening the door to the emotion life sends. When you hear people say ‘control your emotions’ or ‘manage your emotions’, they are telling you to work on option A.  While it is good advice, a problem with just following this advice is that the allure of emotions can be very strong and powerful. It is very difficult to distract yourself from the emotion  that is pounding on the door of your heart and mind.

Managing emotions takes a lot of time and concerted effort

It is even harder when the emotion life sends you is negative. Negative emotions blind side most of us because we do not know they are coming. All of a sudden, something unexpected happens and we suddenly find negative emotions knocking on our door. Caught unaware, we don’t have the energy or stamina to ward off the emotion. Hence, before we know it, we have invited the emotion into our mind and heart. If these negative emotion root themselves in our heart and minds, it derails our actions, our relationships, and the progress of our life. I prefer option B – getting life to send you a different emotion.

If you want to feel different, get life to send you a different emotion

Consider the scenario where you have been promoted to a new position that is completely foreign to you. You are either excited about the promotion and the opportunity to learn and do something new OR you are completely mortified that you will do a terrible job. The first emotion is joy which leads you to feel excited. The second emotion is fear which leads you to feel dread. So, which emotion is life going to send you? The answer is this: It depends on what you believe about the situation

Your belief system determines which emotion life sends you

If you want to alter your emotional state, you have to alter your belief system. Fear has been broken down into the sentence: False Evidence Appearing Real. If your belief system is controlled and rooted in fear, then that fear will trigger life to send you emotions associated with false evidence appearing real. Understand that the emotions are not the problem, the problem is that fear sends the wrong emotion because it is dealing with false evidence which appears true to you.

To get a grip on your emotion requires that you root fear out of your life

According to the bible, the opposite of fear is love. In fact, it says there is no fear in love, but that perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). Therefore, the only way to root out fear is to introduce love. When your belief system is centered around love, it introduces the right emotions into a situation at the right time to produce the right result.

To get a grip on your emotion, you have to center your belief system around love

This does not mean that you will never feel those emotions you’d rather avoid (anger, sadness etc.). What it does mean is that you will feel them at the right time, for the right things, to the right degree. They won’t root themselves in you, thereby controlling you and becoming your master. They will come to serve you so that you can get through any situation.

When love sends you emotions, those emotions will serve you well

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Think Well And Live Well

Few people think more than two or three times a year; I have made an international reputation for myself by thinking once or twice a week – George Bernard Shaw

There is a difference between thinking and having thoughts. Thinking comes from within, thoughts that enter our heads come from without (influenced by external environment, situations, circumstances). When thoughts come flooding into our mind space, we shouldn’t just take them at face value but rather we should think about them.

If you think about your thoughts, then you should make it a habit to ask yourself – Is this thought adding value to my life or is it taking away value? If the thought does not add value to your life or to other people’s lives, then you should reject it.

What would happen if you rejected every thought that adds no value to you or anybody else’s life? I bet you’d feel better about yourself. I bet you wouldn’t go through life being depressed. I bet you would have a different view about the people in your life.

Now, consider what would happen if you focus and meditate on every thought that adds value to your life and other people’s lives. I bet you’d be more likely to give your time, energy, and resources to a worthy cause. I bet you’d probably start that business you have been thinking about for the longest time. I bet you’d be filled with purpose and passion.

Those who think respond to situations, but those who give themselves over to thoughts react to situations.

Dr. Myles Munroe famously said there are 3 kinds of people: Those who make things happen, those who watch things happen, and those who wonder what happened. If you are a thinker, you are a person that makes things happen. If you’re not a thinker, you will simply watch things happen to you and then probably wonder what happened. See, by positioning yourself as a thinker, you are positioning your life for victory. But if you simply entertain every single thought, you will position yourself as a victim.

This is why the bible tells us to take every thought captive (2 Corinthians 10:5). Therefore, you shouldn’t just allow thoughts to roam freely around in your head dictating how you feel and what you do. In fact, the bible tells us to take our thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ.

In other words, it says to capture the thought and ask yourself: Is this thought from God or does it come from a place of love? If the answer is no, then it is time to throw it away. If the answer is yes, then it is time to entertain it. Therefore, for you to master your thoughts, you have to know and believe what God says and then choose to debunk those things that have nothing to do with God’s thoughts and words.

Your thoughts are meant to be a slave to you. You are not meant to be a slave to your thoughts.

If you allow God to influence what you belief, your thought-life will be set apart. Since your thoughts influence your actions, you will find that your actions are God-inspired actions. If your actions, are God-inspired, you will experience victory in your life.

Don’t let thoughts run your life any longer! Take them captive and replace the ungodly thoughts with what God has to say. Lay down your ego and pride, and submit yourself completely to God’s words. Then watch it change your life!

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